Dating and breakups

Last week we posted a quiz to see how much our readers knew regarding the predictors of relationship stability (or success).

Overall, it looks like we've got some work to do; the average score on the quiz was 48% (remember, random guessing should average 50%).

We’ve been talking aplenty about breakups — specifically, about a condition called FOBU, or Fear of Breaking Up. Granted, the planned breakup doesn’t always work out quite so smoothly. “The problem was that she didn’t really mean it,” Max told me over drinks.

Read all about it, find out the signs you have it, see some celebs we’ve diagnosed with it, and learn what to do if your friends have it. In my twenties, I subscribed to the wisdom of Bryan Brown’s Doug Coughlin, the wizened old bartender in “Cocktail,” that “all things end badly, or else they wouldn’t end.” Not everyone is as fatalistic as I am. Max and Jessica had been dating for three years when they decided to call things off, since they had severely different ideas about what they wanted in the future. Max thought that they were really setting the date for their breakup. But on that set date, Jessica went ballistic, threw Max out of her apartment, cursed his name, cursed his mother’s name and told him never to speak to her again. Plus: 20 WTF Engagement Photos If the above sounds like a nightmare, fear not.

It’s a pulsing, weepy pain that digs into your diaphragm, and takes your breath away.

He made it clear on their first date that, after the end of a lengthy marriage and a year of serial dating, he was looking for an enduring relationship.

“That was very appealing to me.” She took it as a sign of his integrity. Eight months of exclusive dating later, The Doctor asked her to marry him. But first, they put their individual homes up for sale so they could buy a place together.

Fourteen months into their engagement, Spira received an email from her fiancé titled, simply, “Please Read This.” She put the message aside to savor after work and other commitments.

When she finally clicked on it, she wished she hadn’t. It said I was not the woman for him, that the relationship was over, and to please send back the ring.